Caught up in the Backwash…

Hey guys! (I know it’s been a while…but I’m back now and this time for good!)

People will change and along with them their relationships and the way they view the world. Often at times some of us get caught up in the backwash of that change and are pulled back into the sea. And honestly that place is confusing and it hurts like hell the further and further you drift from the person.

That doesn’t mean that you have done anything wrong or that your the problem. As human beings we change everyday. We grow, we learn, we adapt, as a result of the environments we are in and the people in our lives. But just because the change happened as a result of you being in someone’s life before the change doesn’t mean that after the change you’ll be in their life. I’m not saying every time someone changes someone has to leave but if they do, it probably means that your part in their life and theirs in yours has been completed. And if that ends up being the end of the road for your friendship it is extremely okay to cry, to hurt, to feel heart broken I mean your only human and what you felt was real. C.S. Lewis once said that there are far better things ahead than any we leave behind. The same goes for friendships.

Often if your caught up in the backwash you’ll probably cling fast to what you had and all the memories you had with that person. But understand this what you had then isn’t what you have now.

What you need to do is let the person go… I’m not saying that it’s gonna be easy because it sure as hell is not and it’ll take time. I’m not saying forget everything that happened and pretend that they didn’t exist I’m saying accept what was happening and what’s not happening . Look back on it and say ‘yeah we had a good run while it lasted.’ The two for you met for a reason, the reason you had a relationship/friendship was for a reason. And that has made you into the person you are today and has probably made you discover thing about yourself that you never knew.

You are not the problem, it is not your fault!

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